11 Things Men Will Never Ever Understand About Women

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, or something like that. I don’t know if I believe we’re so different that half the population are Martians and the others are Venus-ans, but I do know there are some differences between men’s and women’s lifestyles that create a gulf in understanding.

Here are 10 things guys will never have the opportunity of understanding.

1. The need for a ponytail holder on your wrist

Guys will never understand the need to sometimes wear an elastic band on your wrist. They will also never understand how great it is to get one stretched out enough to not cut off your circulation when you’re wearing it. They’ll never get how real the struggle is when there’s just that extra bit left after you’ve wrapped it around your hair a few times with not enough of it to fit around another time. And they’ll never empathize with the pain you have when one day, the precious favorite band snaps and there is nothing to do but put it in the garbage can.

2. Social pressure to be thin

Your body is under scrutiny from people who have no right to care. Men have more wiggle room with what’s an acceptable weight, but society prescribes what’s ideal for women. Even if you are a woman confident enough to let these pressures slide off, these pressures have still attempted to attack you at some point in your life.

3. The feeling of shaved legs

Unless he’s a swimmer or something, he’s never going to know the feeling of sheer joy from having silky, hairless legs. He also won’t understand the debate between wearing leggings under your skirt or just biting the bullet and spending the 5 minutes shaving them.

4. Periods (period)

They’ll never get the game of spending the week wondering when the next time is that you can visit the lady’s room; the fact that no matter how old you are, you’re still at risk of leaking on your undies; and the sheer pain that is the shedding of your uterine lining. Also, tampons. They just don’t get them either.

5. The great bobby pin mystery

Actually this is something women will never understand either. I mean, where the heck do they all go? There was a whole new set a week ago.

6. Rejecting is the actual worst

Too often guys get the easy card. When they stop liking a girl they’ve been casually going on dates with, they can just not ask her out again. But girls can’t disappear so silently. When guys ask us out again, and we know we’re not interested, we have to say “No,” and that’s 0% fun. This isn’t to minimize the awfulness that is being rejected. It’s just to say that guys tend to not understand how it’s not easy for us either.

7. Hair in the drinking fountain

Long-haired ladies know what I’m talking about. There’s a constant concern with not allowing your hair to take a swim when you’re trying to get a quick drink.

8. Hair in the shower

You do your best to convince yourself you’re not experiencing woman pattern baldness when you wash your hair. What’s there to do but put it in a swirl on the shower wall for safe keeping so it doesn’t clog up the drain? Gross, but effective.

9. Hair everywhere

Such is life.

10. The power of makeup

Look, I’m no advocate for makeup (I like the idea of never wearing it), but you have to admit, makeup is pretty transforming. You can erase marks you’re self-conscious about. It’s almost not fair guys are socially banned from using that magical stuff.

11. Painting nails turns you into a damsel in distress

Even the most independent lady can’t do a single thing for about 1.5 hours after painting her nails. It’s actually the worst. But for some reason, it’s still worth it. We don’t expect you men to understand tha

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Stupid Things Men Do That Women Do Not Understand

I am taking on this subject for the very reason that I am a man, make no mistake about it, and I protest vehemently against the inference that my fellow men and I do stupid things.

We do NOT do stupid things. We do things that women just don’t understand, but you can still love us anyways. Men are naturally lovable and huggable – once we brush our teeth and shave, and we do that quite often (although not as often as some genders, which shall remain nameless, may think necessary).

Here is a partial list of some of the things we men do that other genders (nameless still) may label as “stupid”, with a rational explanation about why we do them. I write this article not to criticize any particular gender, but only to promote peace, love, understanding, and second helpings of mashed potatoes:

Socks

…and other soiled items thrown on the floor. At first glance this would SEEM to be a disgusting and rude habit. Please understand, we are only marking our territory. Without those familiar markers, and scents, we might wander away, lost, and never return.

Belching

We men prefer to call it “clearing the throat after a heavy meal”. In the bad old days men would congregate in the library after a good meal to drink brandy and smoke cigars, which helped keep the gas in the stomach from erupting. But aren’t you glad that today’s man simply eructates instead of seeking inebriation and filling up the house with stinky second-hand smoke? What are a few bellows compared to cancer and cirrhosis of the liver?

Never admitting we are lost

A man is never lost. Period. Even if he can’t name the place he is at, he is still not lost. It’s the rest of the world that is lost. Where a man is, is the right spot. We have a natural GPS in our heads, which will get us where we’re going eventually. Stopping to ask directions dissipates a man’s inborn sense of direction. Trust us. We’ll get you there. Does an extra day or two really matter?

Old clothes

Brand new clothes, pressed and starched, have their place in society – mainly for job interviews and funerals. But otherwise a comfortable cotton t-shirt and faded jeans are all anyone should need. If you expect a man to enjoy getting dressed up to go out, you have mistaken him for a Ken doll. He will always resent it, no matter what he may say out loud, and he will come down with mange if you keep him in clean, new clothes too long.

When is he gonna pop the question?

Every man knows that haste makes waste, which is why he prudently takes his time with something as important as a marriage proposal. Fools rush in where wise men prefer to ring the doorbell and wait cautiously outside. We are not to be stampeded into “sweeping her off her feet”. “Slow and steady wins the race” is our motto. Unless, of course, it concerns buying a dirt bike or a bet to see how many black olives we can stuff into our left ear…then immediate action is always called for

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5 Reasons You Should Be Helping Your Wife To Clean

When we pray, we should go into our closets where men do not know or hear our prayers, but God alone sees and hears our prayers. There, we demonstrate humility and gratitude for the things we have been blessed with. What we do in secret motivates and blesses our lives publicly.

The same is true in housework and marriage.

What you do for your wife in secret is really what makes all the difference. Cleaning house is something you can do without sharing your sacrifice with others. It’s a gesture of love for your wife that speaks to her personally, “I love and value you.” What you do in secret will bless your life, and your relationship, outwardly.

Here are five benefits to cleaning the house:

1. It demonstrates willingness to be a servant-leader

How can your wife have confidence that you would lay down your life for her if you can’t pick up your clothes?

2. It reinforces the concept of team

How can two people walk together unless they agree?

3. Cleaning house releases creativity

There is something about creating order in your home that releases creativity in your work. When God found chaos and confusion, he said, “Let there be light.” He exposed the chaos and put things in order.

As I was writing this article, a friend called and shared how his wife, a New York Times bestselling author, was experiencing writer’s block. She said, “I’m not getting anywhere with this book. I’m going to clean my closet.” An hour later, she had a rush of creativity and was able to meet her deadline. My friend said, “Man, this closet principle really works!”

4. Cleaning house shows gratitude and humility

When your blue-gloved hand is gripping a toilet brush, you show humility. That brush is the equivalent of a sword that cuts through pride. It’s a good thing.

5. Cleaning house makes you attractive

It has been suggested that a man helping with household chores is the number one turn-on for a wife. Who knew? You become more attractive when you’re pushing a vacuum cleaner

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5 reasons why you shouldn’t get married

Once upon a time, marriages were valued and as scarce as they come, but not so these days.

There are at least 6 marriages taking place in every local government, in Nigeria, on a weekly basis.

Where this would have been an inspiration for many others to put their lives together, as they prepare to settle down, the results of these half-cocked unions quickly turn into night mares for those that are still single.

Most ladies, I for one, had my life all planned out down to the suburbs; married at 22, done with kids at 30 and live happily ever after.

Ha! If only I had known the level of hypocrisy and mediocrity that goes on behind closed doors, so much so that the thought of marriage, once sweet and rosy, causes apprehension in my gut.

So why exactly shouldn’t you get married now?

1. If you cannot picture yourself with your partner living as a married couple, do not bother.

2. Just how much can you take when it comes to your partner’s bad habits? If your partner’s habits already gets on your nerves with no changes in sight, marriage isn’t the solution.

3. Are you whole, complete, content, when you are alone? If you think you need your partner to feel whole, marriage should be the last thing on your mind.

4. Just how much do you love your spouse? Love embodies respect, submission, compromise, assistance and so much more. If you cannot picture yourself going out of your way, breaking your rules to make your marriage work, you are wasting your time.

5. What does marriage mean to you? If it is anything short of a partnership based on mutual trust and love, marriage is everything you do not need.

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MEN ONLY: Here Are 13 Signs That you’re Chasing a Wild Goose When Seducing a LADY

If she exhibits one or more of the below, she is NOT playing
hard to get, so cut your losses and move on.
1. She’s not returning your calls. She may not call you but not
returning your calls is plain rude and a clear ‘I am not
interested’ signal.
If she’s playing games, even worse, you should think twice
whether this is the type of girl you want to be spending time
with. Flashing red- light!
2. She’s giving you monotonous responses on the phone or
text. Women like to talk especially to men they are interested
in. One word answers mean ‘I am not interested in letting you
know me and I am not interested in knowing you either.’ This
is one signal I wish all guys would understand quicker. Double
red- light!
3. She’s inflexible and too busy to fit you into her schedule. It
is not unusual for a woman to clear her whole day’s schedule
just to be available for one hour with a man she is clearly
interested in. Red-light!
4. She declines gifts, never lets you do her any favors – or
she repays them immediately. This is a sign she knows you’re
into her, and she doesn’t want to feel indebted or obligated
to you. Most women love receiving gifts and if she declines
or doesn't acknowledge the gesture there isn’t a clearer
signal that she is not interested. Proceed with caution!
5. She agrees to go out with you but cancels at the last
minute. If she has cancelled on you a few times. Hint, hint,
you are just back up.
6. You don’t hear from her for weeks or months at a time,
and then she calls out of the blues to hang out. Chances are
she is bored and you are the very last resort. You’re worse
than back up.
7. She’s trying to hook you up with her friends or talking
about how attractive other women are. This is a sure sign she
is trying to deflect your attention from herself to another
woman. Not a good sign.
8. She’s talking to you about other men she is interested in.
This is really a hopeless situation and if she’s doing this
because she’s playing games, again I ask is this the kind of
woman you really want to be with.
9. She says ‘maybe’ to a date scheduled 2 weeks in advance.
She’s just being polite, she’s not interested.
10. She tells you that she just wants to be friends or that she
thinks of you as a brother
(much worse). This means that she doesn’t find you
attractive. She enjoys your company but she does not want to
sleep with you. Sorry brother.
11. She finds every reason to argue with you and then puts
the blame on you. She’s trying
to justify why you’re so wrong for her. Please help her leave
you. Run!
12. She puts you down in public, shouts at you or rolls her
eyes in contempt. Wow! She has no respect for you
whatsoever so please just leave her alone.
13. She doesn't laugh at your jokes. She either doesn't get
your sense of humor, which means you probably aren't
compatible or you are really rubbing her the wrong way. When
women are interested, everything about you is funny. She will
laugh even when it isn’t funny.

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Things No One Tells You About Falling In Love With Your Best Friend

When you start to date your best friend, you gain a lot: a protector, undeniable confidence, and a feverish determination to make your relationship work. But you also lose a lot and learn a lot. Read on to find out why taking on the challenge is a tough feat, but at the end of the day, totally worth it.

1. You’ll Know Exactly What the Other Person’s Thinking, All the Time

You don’t need to bother trying to read your own best friend’s mind because you already know what he or she is about to say. So while a relationship with somebody new often involves a lot of overanalyzing and sending nerve-racking texts, you won’t have to play the guessing game this time around.

2. You’ll Wish There Were More Hours in the Day

Time: you’re going to want more of it. At first, you won’t be able to get enough of each other. Now you can do the things you’ve always done as friends and things people do as more than friends. While you’ll want to spend the whole day together, there are other people in your life who need your lovin’ too, like family and the rest of your buddies. Don’t forget it.

3. You Won’t Stop Making Fun of Each Other

If you’ve always made fun of his obsession with that one childish video game and he’s always picked on you for wearing that “weird” man-repelling top, it’s not going to stop now. The only difference is that the teasing will probably end with a kiss on the forehead instead of a playful punch in the arm.

4. There’s a Constant Fear You Live With

You could lose the most important person in your life — the one who plays the part of your best friend and boyfriend or girlfriend. If you’re fighting with him or her, you might have to tap your mom or another friend for advice. You try not to think about what would happen if this all doesn’t work out, but sometimes you do, and sometimes a mighty pang of anxiety comes along with it.

5. Dinner Plans Will Be Incredibly Easy

Planning your first dinner “date” will go something like this: “Wanna get pizza from that place we tried that time?” “Yeah.” And you’ll probably split the bill, just like you always have. And you’ll feel totally comfortable stuffing your face in front of each other, just like you always have.

6. You’ll Fight a Lot Sooner Than You Expected

You’ve never been afraid to tell this person how you feel, and that’s not about to change now that you’ve entered a romantic relationship. If you’re angry about something, there’s less of a chance you’ll hide it and more of a chance you’ll lay it on the line. Your best friend already knows what irks you and when to stop pushing your buttons. And you won’t hesitate to remind them, lest they forget.

7. You’ll Start to Care About How You Look in Front of Them, Even If You Didn’t Before

Your best friend’s probably seen you in your sweats with no makeup on plenty of times. Because really, you never put a second thought into how you looked. But now, you’ll have fun getting dressed up and feeling sexy in front of your SO. There’s a newfound level of attraction there, and you’ll really enjoy it.

8. It’s Worth It

No one ever tells you to go ahead and fall in love with your best friend because of the risk factor. If all goes wrong and things end badly, there’s the chance you’ll lose someone who’s a very important part of your life. But you’ll also never know a bond as strong as the one you share with someone who truly cares about you, supports you, laughs with you, and also happens to be in love with you. There are a lot of crazy decisions you’ll make in life. If you get the chance, you should totally let this be one of them

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MUST READ!!! 10 Relationship Tips For Single Ladies

This is a shout out to all the women – whether you’re just entering the dating scene, or you’ve been there and back.

We know it can be tough to navigate the potentially treacherous waters of a relationship – balancing your needs against what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship, and the intrinsic feeling of failure you have if you aren’t successful or if your knight in shining armor is taking his sweet time arriving.

But, here’s some advice from those who have come before you – and are right there with you.

Here are 10 relationship tips for single women that will keep you real and keep you on the steady course to true happiness – with or without a relationship.

1. You Must Love Yourself Before You Can Love Someone Else

No one is going to complete a you that isn’t already whole. You must be in love with yourself before anyone else can be in love with you. Often, what motivates you to seek acceptance from others is really a desire to accept yourself – so, make yourself your own biggest source of self-esteem and others will be drawn to your sparkle!

2. Slow Your Roll!

A lot of those ooey gooey couples claim that they knew on the first date that this was the person they are going to marry. Well, no matter how many times bae tells us that if he likes it, he better put a ring on it, try and keep this in mind: Not every date is a potential mate. One good date shouldn’t have you sending out the save the dates. This puts unrealistic expectations on both of you, and can cause you to obsess and come on too strong. Relax and get to the know the person – and stop imagining what your future kids are going to look like!

3. A Man Is Not A Lump Of Clay For You To Mold

It’s a cliche – a woman marries a man hoping he’ll change, a man marries a woman hoping she won’t. The truth is, don’t expect to change ANYONE – unless you’re a particularly good hypnotist. While you certainly have the right to express your opinion and suggest to your partner expectations you have, at the end of the day, the decision to make a change is entirely theirs.

4. Don’t Expect Different Results If You’re Repeating The Same Actions

It’s so easy to fall into a pattern – and, when we’ve been a loop for so long, we may come to think of that way of life as normal. Dating the same type of guy or repeating the same behavior in a relationship is bound to yield the same results. If you want a change, then do something differently.

5. Enjoy Yourself While You Can

Believe it or not, you’re most likely not going to be single forever – so, enjoy the time you have with yourself and use it productively. Work on your career, your physical, mental, and emotional well being, and getting yourself into a place where you can offer someone the best of you. But, have some fun too! There’s never going to be a better time to write that novel, take that French cooking class or book those luxury holidays that you’ve always wanted to.

6. Don’t Make Excuses For People Who Need To Be Excused From Your Life

There are two kinds of people who you don’t have time for – the ones who are dead weight and the pop-ins. The dead weights take your time and energy while giving you little or nothing in return – while the pop-ins come and go at their whim, leaving you wondering. It may be difficult to let go of these people, but once you do, we promise, you’ll feel lighter and more in control of your life.

7. Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend

It’s natural for a woman to want to show a man what a good wife she would make – and we’re instinctively nurturers. It’s fine to show caring and love to a man, but, be mindful of giving away too much of yourself too soon to someone who doesn’t deserve it.

8. Don’t Confuse Love With Lust

It’s important to make the distinction between what feels good to you and what’s good for you. The more quickly you give in to those hormonal desires, the more difficult this is going to be to discern. Don’t overlook future necessities just to satisfy your present desires and don’t confuse love with lust.

9. Things Take Time

Nothing happens overnight – and the more you desire it, the more frustration you will feel during the course of events. If you’re so hung up on where your Prince Charming is, you’re going to miss out on the excitement and freedom of being single. If you’re obsessing over when the ring is coming, you’re going to miss the romance and fun of that special dating period. If you’re desperate to have a child right away, you’re going to miss out on the honeymoon period that solidifies that marital bond. Things happen in their own time. Have a little faith that there’s a master plan, and you’re a part of it.

10. Don’t Panic When You Hit The Big “3-0”

There’s something about that age that makes us re-evaluate every life decision we’ve ever made. If you’re there, or even if you’re still getting there – it can be a time of frustration, anxiety, and depression if things aren’t looking like they did in your head. Don’t be the woman who is obsessed with trying to find a man or constantly sad about not having one, so, she finds herself desperate, settling and/or overwhelmed with sadness because she’s so consumed thinking about what isn’t instead of what is.

Live in the present. Life is short, so don’t spend a moment of it bemoaning how you think is should look rather than how it actually does. Instead, empower yourself – make good decisions for yourself, and find happiness with all the wonderful things in your world right now, because we promise, there are a lot of them!

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HEY LADIES – 4 Undeniable Signs Your Husband Is Cheating

If you want to affair-proof your marriage or relationship, and how to catch or confirm that your man is cheating, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.

First, you need to know your partner. If you don’t spend much time together — if you don’t lounge on the couch or talk to one another regularly — you need to. Silence is one of the biggest relationship-killers. You need to verbalize what’s going on in your relationship, not only with one another, but talk about work, your interests and your goals.

Communication is golden, and you need to have open lines. Furthermore, if you know your partner, you’re more likely to notice changes in his patterns or moods.

Secondly, don’t pay too much attention to the “common” signs of cheating that are plastered and spoken time and time again. Unless your man is a caveman, he’s probably smarter than that. These common signs include:

1. He doesn’t want to have s*x as much. A smart cheater isn’t going to slack up on s*x at home; he’ll probably be giving it to you the same as always or possibly even more often. Notice changes in the s*x, not the frequency. He’ll pick up new tricks or techniques from a mistress and use them on you.

2. He starts going out with his friends more often. Now, granted, this is something to pay attention to, but it could really be just going out with friends. If he starts constantly going out with his buddies and develops a pattern of doing so that he hadn’t been doing, pay attention. He could legitimately be going out with friends, but might call it a night early and meet up with a mistress. So if you ask his friends if he was there, he was.

3. He’s gone for long periods of time and offers lame explanations. Taking hours to complete simple tasks are usually things people tell you. If he goes to the grocery store and takes an abnormally long time, check the receipt; it will show what time he checked out. If he left at noon and the receipt says he didn’t check out until 3 PM, you know that man wasn’t shopping for three hours.

4. He exhibits strange phone behavior. If he becomes overly sensitive about his phone, starts putting it on silent, turning it off or safe-guarding it, there might be a problem. But unless your man is a total nitwit, don’t check the device — check the bill. He can erase calls, voicemail, and texts from the device, but not the bill. Also keep in mind that savvy cheaters may purchase a pre-paid phone

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Top 6 Signs You Are Ready To Get Married

You may think you are not ready, but when certain circumstances arise, you may have to make a decision that involves choosing between your single status and the one you love.


Doesn’t matter if you are in your twenties, thirties, forties or fifties and still single, you’ll find that one person who’ll make you want to sacrifice your single status and spend the rest of your life with them.

Compiled by Huffington Post, here are a few signs that you have met ‘the one’ and are ready for marriage:

1. Having kids with this person isn’t terrifying to you.

2. You are comfortable with doing pretty much everything around them and wouldn’t think twice about your actions.

3. You don’t hate doing domestic work for and with the one you love no matter what it is.

4. You don’t see yourself single anymore, you’ve practically waved everything you did as a single man or woman goodbye.

Happy couple doing chores (Daily Mail)

5. You love them more than everyone or anyone you’ve met.

6. You trust them with your deepest secrets.

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Wema Sepetu: Idris Umenifanya Nijivunie Kuwa Mwanamke

Idriss na Wema Sepetu

Zikiwa zimepita siku kadhaa toka Idris Sultan kuweka wazi kumpa ujauzito bidada Wema Sepetu kupitia katika account yake ya Instagram Wema Sepetu amefunguka na kusema kuwa Idris amempa heshima na kumfanya ajivunie kuwa mwanamke.

Wema Sepetu leo kupitia ukurasa wake wa Instgram amefunguka mambo mengi na kuonyesha kufurahishwa na wala hajutii kuanzisha mahusiano na Idris Sultan, katika ujumbe wa Wema anasema wazi anampenda Idris si kwa sababu tu na yeye anampenda hapana bali ni kutokana na ukweli kwamba Idris ametengeneza historia nyingine katika maisha yake na kumfanya kuwa mtu bora na kubadili kabisa maisha yake.

Wema Sepetu alizidi kushusha shukrani kwa kijana huyo na kusema ikiwa leo ni siku yake ya kuzaliwa Idris Sultan anataka kumueleza kuwa yeye Wema Sepetu anajiona ni mtu mwenye bahati kumpata yeye kama mtu wake au mpenzi wake na kusema atamtunza na kumheshima kwa muda mrefu sana.

Zifuatazo ni baadhi ya nukuu kutoka kwa Wema Sepetu katika ujumbe wake huo ambao umekuwa ujumbe maalumu kwa mpenzi wake huyo katika siku yake ya kuzaliwa.

" Nimeandika na kufuta karibia mara mia maana kila ninachotaka kuandika najikuta naona hakifai and maybe hakitoshi.... Im busy looking for the Proper words to tell you how I truly feel but naona kama sio.... I thought deep and I jus simply decided to write this Idris I love you, not only because you are my man or because you love me too No...!!! I love you because you make me a Better person, You changed my whole life.... You Complete me" Alisema Wema

"You are the only person That has really made me feel like a woman.... Oh...! I just love you with all my heart... Now before The Clock strikes 12, Let me be The 1st to wish you a Happy Birthday My Love " Alimaliza Wema Sepetu

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Ladies, 5 Ways To Boost Your Fertility Rate

Exercise And Diet

If you want to boost your fertility rate, be conscious of what you eat and engage in regular exercise so as to keep fit. Unhealthy food intake whether too much or too little can contribute as a factor to infertility. Too little or too much weight can make your reproductive cycle irregular. That causes you to ovulate only now and then, or not at all. Your ovaries and your fat cells regulate estrogen, which 
affects ovulation. If you’re too thin, you may not be producing enough estrogen, and if you’re overweight or obese, you may be producing too much. Moderate exercise can also be a good natural fertility treatment. When combined with a balanced and nutritious diet, exercise can help you to maintain a healthy body weight. Excess body fat can increase the amount of estrogen in your body, throwing the female fertility cycle out of balance. Exercise helps to burn off excess body fat, allow hormone levels to return to normal. It is best not to overdo exercise because exercising can actually impair fertility. Try low impact aerobic workouts like walking, swimming, and cycling. Eat vegetable protein sources, such as cooked dried beans and nuts.

Avoid Chemicals

Avoid chemicals especially the household chemicals if you want to enhance your fertility rate such as the pesticides used on farmlands and in the large fields because they have a great impact on female fertility. Chemicals used to kill insects and weeds that threaten crops may affect female fertility by inhibiting ovarian function and disrupting the menstrual cycle.  So if you’re looking to get pregnant, it’s always a good idea to eat organic fruits and vegetables, wash with residues carefully, and avoid applying pesticides to your lawn or garden. You can use organic solutions for cleaning your apartment. Chemicals found in detergents can also disrupt a woman’s normal menstrual cycle and cause miscarriage and it also possibly affect semen quality. The best thing to do is switch from petroleum-based detergents to vegetable-based, fragrance-free detergents, which contain fewer chemicals. Also, ditch products that contain parabens, phthalates or formaldehyde in favor of more natural, preservative-free alternatives.

Reduce Intake Of Alcohol

Excessive alcohol consumption decreases the ability to get pregnant (it can also harm a developing fetus). Alcohol alters estrogen levels, which may interfere with egg implantation. You should also consider cutting back on caffeine while you try to conceive and during your pregnancy. Caffeine affects the female hormone levels and may affect how long it takes to get pregnant. If you’re considering getting pregnant, limit your daily consumption of caffeine. You can eliminate alcohol totally to encourage fertility.

Regular Sex And Positions

It’s really a good idea to start having sex more often than before with your partner. Weekly sex may cause you to produce more estrogen,  frequent sex helps when you’re actually trying to conceive and having sex every one to two days during your fertile window is associated with the best chance of pregnancy. You might also try making love every few days all month long. The “fertile window” spans a six-day interval, the five days prior to ovulation and the day of it, because these are the days you mostly likely get pregnant intercourse is most likely to result in a pregnancy when it occurs two days before ovulation. If you are having difficulty becoming pregnant, you and your partner may need to experiment different conception positions during intercourse. In order to become pregnant, your partner must deposit his sperm as close as possible to your cervix. Certain positions will allow this to happen more easily. Avoid having sex while standing, sitting, or with you on top, as this can cause semen to leak out of your body. Instead, try the missionary position, which allows for deeper penetration. Rear entry intercourse is also effective, as it allows your partner to deposit semen closer to your cervix. To keep any extra semen from leaking out of you, try elevating your hips for fifteen minutes or so after your have sex.

Engage In Fertility Massage

Fertility Massage awakens the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. This awakening invites in healthy fresh oxygenated blood, gently moves toxins out and strengthens the entire pelvic bowl. Fertility Massage is important to women’s reproductive health, it is the series of massage techniques you can do from home to increase reproductive organ health. It helps to promote hormonal balance, promote circulation to the reproductive organ, reduce pain, strengthen the uterus and more. Self Fertility Massage can also be part of a natural therapy program for blocked fallopian tubes, endometriosis and uterine fibroids.

Reduce stress, drink fertility smoothie daily, don’t douche because it can wipe off normal protecting bacteria and most importantly know your cycle, a normal menstrual cycle lasts about 21 to 35 days (start counting on the first day of your period). If your cycle is noticeably longer like 42 days, you can assume you’re ovulating less often and may want to see your ob-gyn or midwife. When you’re ready to conceive, find your fertile window, during which you should have intercourse regularly. A woman’s fertile days are usually the day of ovulation and the four of five days before. The ovulation varies among women, occurring as early as day 6 and as late as day 21 of a cycle. You can as well know when you’re ovulating with urine or saliva based ovulation test kits; both types check for the presence of hormones that indicate ovulation is imminent. You can also note daily changes in your basal body temperature.

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His 4 Biggest Needs, Her 4 Biggest Needs

Obviously, you need to communicate with your spouse to determine how his/her needs may differ from this list below. There are many more needs than what I’m listing below, but this will give a good start. Instead of just listing needs, I’m going to break this down into four key categories:

1. In the OVERALL RELATIONSHIP, her biggest need is love and his biggest need is respect

The groundbreaking book “Love and Respect” by Emmerson Eggerichs beautifully outlines this simple yet profound principle that most women have a deep and abiding need for love and most men have an equal need for respect. This is displayed in both our words and our actions. Women long to hear the phrase, “I love you”with frequency and authenticity and men long to hear phrases of respect and appreciation like “Thank you” or “I appreciate you” with the same frequency.

2. In the BEDROOM, her biggest need is sensitivity, his biggest need is frequency

Men tend to (not always) have a greater need for high frequency in the bedroom, but they also need to be sensitive to the fact that wives are wired differently. Mutual pleasure and connectedness in the bedroom requires the husband to be sensitive to his wife’s need for emotional connectedness and not just the physical act itself.

3. In COMMUNICATION, her biggest need is frequency, his biggest need is activity

The need for frequent communication for most women tends to be as important as the need for frequent s*x for most men. When I say “activity” as a communication need for men, I mean that women tend to view communication/conversation as an activity in and of itself, but for men, we tend to base communication around some other activity. The activity could be something as simple as going on a walk or a drive or working together on a project. It tends to help men open up more.

4. In the HOME, her biggest need is security and his biggest need is peace

Most wives want the home to be a “safe place” where their husband is working in partnership with them to meet the family’s needs and providing stability and security (financial, physical and in all other ways). For men, most want the home to be a refuge where they can experience tranquility away from the pressures of work and life. Every home (especially with young kids), will have plenty of moments of noise and chaos, but overall, work together with your spouse to create an atmosphere of encouragement, support, safety and tranquility for everyone under your roof.

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VITU 10 UNAPASWA KUJUA MWANAUME KABLA MKE WAKO HAJAJIFUNGUA

As they leave the hospital with new baby in arms, all first-time parents are hoping for an instruction manual as well. Unfortunately, this coveted manual does not exist. But what parents should also be looking for is a manual teaching the couple how to deal with the “new” wife.

When a baby is born, you must recognize you’ll never be the same. And husbands often get lost in the midst of so much change.

With that in mind, I decided to make a list of things that every husband needs to know after his wife has become a mother:

1. Your woman feels ugly

No man could understand the many conflicting feelings she has about her body after birth. On one hand, she realizes her body is incredible — it just created a human being! But she can also feel upset over certain ways her body has changed.

Complex, I know.

Along with many other changes, her belly (one of the parts of her body that she cherishes) was stretched to the limit, causing stretch marks.

She has gained weight — something that no woman likes.

What can you do? Never fail to praise your wife. Look into her eyes when you compliment her.

When she asks you something about her body, gently encourage her. If she is worried about being overweight, tell her that she will soon return to normal. Remind her that her body just gave you both the greatest gift.

2. Your woman is obsessed with her baby

You’re both still in the process of adjusting to all that is going on with your life, which can cause her crying spells (the famous baby blues). But still, her life has irreversibly changed, and she’s completely obsessed with her little one.

This obsession is part of the process of adaptation. It is also the maternal instinct she just cannot control.

3. Your woman is afraid

Everything is new. You already know this, but for her, this newness is terrifying.

She feels like it’s an exam. It took nine months studying and preparing, and now she’s at the moment of truth. She’s evaluating herself, and everything changes constantly. Moreover, a whole world of people are throwing opinions and wanting to help. This is good, but also overwhelming. This can intimidate and stress her out.

Know that she’s doing the best she knows how. She needs your support, your love and understanding. Try to pass on confidence. Let her know this crazy time will pass, and tell her that making mistakes is normal. What really matters is that you are in this together and you know she is being the best mother you could have chosen for your child. During these hard times, a hug and encouraging words help a ton.

4. Your woman is always on the defensive

Her mother thinks she should go back to work. Her aunt thinks she is not breastfeeding right. Her friend with five kids shoots out opinions, because she has “more experience.” Her mother-in-law also wants to be the mommy.

It is not easy and the defense is to be defensive.

Stay out of it. When she’s calm, subtly show her they are trying to help her and she does not need to be so defensive; but do it when the ground is safe.

5. Your woman cannot get mad at the baby

A new mom knows that the major culprit of her crazy lack of sleep is her baby. But he’s just a baby and she knows it.

Husbands, be a punching bag for her stress and her sanity. This phase also passes.

6. Your woman has nothing to wear

This point is more frustration than sorrow. She’s tired of wearing maternity clothes, which usually don’t have much variety and take away some feminine glamour. But after she just had a baby, her pre-mommy clothes won’t fit her yet. To make matters worse, she refuses to buy clothes, because in her mind, she hopes to soon return to normal.

Praise her as a mother. It might divert her attention. Encourage her to eat and drink plenty of water.

7. Your woman needs protection

I think women always want their men to be their protectors, but it dramatically increases when she becomes a mother. She needs you to be a barrier between her and the outside world. For example, if she doesn’t want guests to come over, you need to let them know.

When something happens that makes her stress levels rise, be quick to say, “I’ll handle it!”

8. Your woman needs permission to rest

Most women go into motherhood really believing they can do it all. They feel the other mothers with dirty houses and cranky babies were doing something wrong. But the complex gift of motherhood burns you out quickly. The worst part is, most mothers can’t admit they reached the limit. Give your wife permission to rest. Point out that she needs to take a nap or watch a little TV to relax whenever the baby is asleep. If she tries to argue, remind her that you are simply protecting her … from herself.

9. Your woman needs you to ask her if she needs anything

Just trust me; she’ll appreciate this.

10. Your woman loves you

She loves to see you as a father. She loves to hear you say how this new human being is changing you. She loves that your little human being has your ears and toes. It may not seem logical, but every time you connect to that little baby, you are connecting more and more to her. Having a front row ticket to seeing you become a daddy is priceless to her.

And don’t worry — things will start to improve.

This article was originally published on De Mãe Para Mamãe.

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